There may be times when the environment places two people together for either a known or unknown duration of time for an infinite number of reasons. And their may be times when the desired outcome of a relationship is in effect, the desire of not forming a relationship at all, or keeping the relationship as superficial or divided as possible, thus not forming the relationship being the ultimate goal under those specific circumstances again for any number of possible reasons.

We could sever the relationship as quickly as possible by offensive actions or other such extreme tactics, however being civilized human beings we probably wouldn't want to do that. We could analyze it in terms of ANNA, however ANNA tends to be direct, abstract, and absent of the details of explanation simply stopping, or slowing down to a minimum growth rate, the speed of which ANNA are created. So let's not do that. Let's take a reverse look at the Social Psychological understanding of not forming a relationship and add the details in of which I observed. Remember as you read through this that what I'm talking about is how to NOT allow a relationship to form.

In 1983 when Harold Kelley defined what a close relationship is, he said that a close relationship is a relationship that has a diverse interdependence that lasts over a considerable time that has has a high frequency of contact and strong influence on the parties in the relationship. Here, we are going to reverse that a bit and say that if we don't want a relationship to form, then we should have as little interdependence as possible, contact as seldom as possible, and not be affected by any influences of the other party. We should also keep the diversity of the interactions as strict as possible, meaning that we should only interact in as few environments as possible. Specifically the environment that we are forced to be in. When we are in contact, we should try to keep the duration of contact as brief as possible. Since relationships form over time, if time is controlled or restricted then the relationship is less likely to be formed at all thus achieving the desired effect. And besides the duration of time of the interactions, we should also keep the frequency of those interactions to a minimum to maintain the distance in the relationship.

The next thing that should be monitored and specifically avoided is any and all characteristics of romantic behavior. Erotic charge, sexual desire, limerence and most importantly the hope, desire or possibility of sex, should all be avoided. When Dorothy Tennov described the ideas of limerence, she did so probably while in love herself. And since limerence is quite irrational, it should be kept in check at all times and even the slightest form of limerence should be restricted, controlled, and avoided. If the other party mentions ideas of limerence they should be ignored and passed off as soon as possible. 

If you do by chance feel that heightened, emotional feelings toward the other person, you find yourself thinking about them for no reason, intrusive thoughts, can't stop thinking about them, then the best thing for you to do is to surround yourself with people that you know, work, music, and other things to keep you mind away from those intrusive thoughts. When other ideas of love and being loved back enter you mind, you should quickly and harshly wash them away as meaningless and not worth much merit. Cognitive processing or associating them as irrational or irresponsible seemed to work in my observations. 

If other ideas enter forming the impressions of possession, being special to you, desire of being special back, you can simply replace those ideas with more associations of nonsense or extreme doubt of it progressing further or simply cognitively work through it as something you don't want to say or believe. It's the same when further romantic characteristics approach the situation, specifically the possibility of sex or erotic charge. It's best to remove, ignore, and dismiss those concept as quickly as possible and focus on the goal of maintaining distance in the relationship.

Since success in relationship requires both partners needs to be fulfilled, in our case, it would be most important to make sure that the other partners needs are perceived as never being able to be fulfilled by you. In that way you would block part of their global belief focusing on the good possibilities of the relationship.

And finally, the global belief structure itself can be avoided by simply following the opposite of the intimate relationship maintenance theory. Since good relationships are formed by partners holding a positive belief in general about their partner, it would be important in our case to look at all the little details that are bad. To insure any expectation of good experiences are to remain bad expectations of those experiences in the other party it may be useful to deny and reject any offers with explanations of how something is negative. We want to keep the Global belief about the other party negative as well as try to make sure their global belief about us is negative too. In essence we want to focus on all the bad things about the relationship, why they are bad and share that with the other person as much as possible while necessary.

Remember, even though intimate relationships are often pleasurable when love exists, hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is the opposite of love. We either love, or we are indifferent. Understanding this article, how to not allow relationships to form, will help you and your un-partner achieve a profound level of indifference. Even the most unconditional of us wouldn't last too long in an environment like that.

I was walking today and saw a sign that said, "Cookie". So I entered the store and said I'd like to buy a cookie. And the woman, says to me, "No Cookies". And I said, "Well what about the cookie outside and the cookie right there in the display counter?" She says, "those are only to look at". I said "ok", and as I was leaving I realized something.

"She showed me the cookie but didn't let me eat it!"

It's just like a woman, to show me the cookie but not let me eat it. It's not like I want to eat all the cookies. I just want one. And I don't want some other cookie, or some other cookie some other time. I want THAT cookie, NOW. Show me the cookie but don't let me eat it. Yep, just like a woman to do something like that.